Dating a recent divorcee male
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.
Be patient After going through a divorce, it’s unlikely that your date will want to rush into a serious commitment, especially if he has children.
It’s best to take things slowly and not to feel impatient about reaching certain milestones together.
When Becky asked him how long he'd been divorced, he admitted that it wasn't final yet, that he was living in the basement of the home that he and his wife shared, and that they'd only been separated for three weeks.
Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.
So bear in mind that your date’s ex-wife will be in the picture while you are dating him.
Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).Put the kids first Your new man’s kids will always come first to him, so don’t try to compete for his affection.Even if you’re thrilled about the prospect of meeting them, be aware that you need to be the one to fit into their lives, not the other way around.This could be in the form of old photos, presents or anecdotes about things that happened when he and his ex were together.Try not to let this bother you; everyone has memories which represent a different time of life.